Love

[BnLM5]

That is the way that I am treated and the way I live my life.
Counseling would be OK for awhile, but after lsitening to everyones crud for a couple months would change the person I am inside.
No thanks

You always have something nice to say about your wife. She must be a wonderful person. I wish that certain people in my life would learn or realize what the important things in life are. I long for it always!

[freeringo]

You always have something nice to say about your wife. She must be a wonderful person. I wish that certain people in my life would learn or realize what the important things in life are. I long for it always!

She's my best friend and I can't remember the last time we had a fight.
Over 10 years at least.

[bouks999]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.

[taylovesthebeatles]

Listen to Ringo, his advice is completely right in my opinion.

[BnLM5]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.

Just hang in there. I know that when I am depressed and I don't want my mind to be on worry especially about my relationship I also get online and I stay there. I hide so deep into NDN forums that if we had tents I would sleep here too. I am so happy to hear the you daughter is in remission. That is wonderful. And as far as the weight goes you will lose it. Sometimes it just takes time. I know the more I set at this computer and the more Pepsi I drink the more I know I am gonna get fat. I just keep telling my husband that if I get fat there will just be a lot more of me to love. lolz

[GloBug]

well girlfriend ill be honest with you. i kinda did the same thing to my wife early on in our relationship when we had our 1st child. i yelled at everything due to the strees of having a kid. i never realized that i was doing wrong because i was doing it so often it felt natural. i always thought in my head that if i dont hit her its not abuse. boy was i wrong. well all said and done she left me one new years eve when i was in lake tahoe. when i got home after 4 days of partying there was nothing left in the house besides my tv, a couch and my cloths. boy was i hurt. she left a note and told me all the wrongs i had done to her. i nerver knew i was doing wrong till that day. boy was that a eye opener. well i cried for like 3 days because both of my babies were gone and i wanted them back. i was finally able to get a hold of her and we talked. i normally would have started to yell but i had a epiphany by her leaving and i talked to her in a calm and collective voice and reasoned with her. well i wasnt mad at her it actually gave me alot of respect for to do what she did. i was more sad then anything. dont let ADD be the excuse because him yelling at has nothing to do with ADD. i say move with your mom and let him realize what he has lost. do it when he isnt around to get the full effect. i would never wish this on anyone but have done it and dont want to see anyone else go thru it. as for friends ehhh friends come and go only the friends u grow up with are the ones u can count on. maybe u can rekindle a old friendsship with some one u went to school with. u never know. dont sit around and think he will change on his own because he wont. trust me ive been where he is now. we dont know we are doing wrong till something is taken away from us. your daughter and you should be the most important. if it is not that way then u may love him but he will never love u the same. dont be afriad of makeing a life altering decision because the future is always brighter. your mom is all the support u need now if he isnt gonna give it to you. stay strong and stand up to him. it will all work out in the end. i will keep u in my thoughts.

[GloBug]

well girlfriend ill be honest with you. i kinda did the same thing to my wife early on in our relationship when we had our 1st child. i yelled at everything due to the strees of having a kid. i never realized that i was doing wrong because i was doing it so often it felt natural. i always thought in my head that if i dont hit her its not abuse. boy was i wrong. well all said and done she left me one new years eve when i was in lake tahoe. when i got home after 4 days of partying there was nothing left in the house besides my tv, a couch and my cloths. boy was i hurt. she left a note and told me all the wrongs i had done to her. i nerver knew i was doing wrong till that day. boy was that a eye opener. well i cried for like 3 days because both of my babies were gone and i wanted them back. i was finally able to get a hold of her and we talked. i normally would have started to yell but i had a epiphany by her leaving and i talked to her in a calm and collective voice and reasoned with her. well i wasnt mad at her it actually gave me alot of respect for to do what she did. i was more sad then anything. dont let ADD be the excuse because him yelling at has nothing to do with ADD. i say move with your mom and let him realize what he has lost. do it when he isnt around to get the full effect. i would never wish this on anyone but have done it and dont want to see anyone else go thru it. as for friends ehhh friends come and go only the friends u grow up with are the ones u can count on. maybe u can rekindle a old friendsship with some one u went to school with. u never know. dont sit around and think he will change on his own because he wont. trust me ive been where he is now. we dont know we are doing wrong till something is taken away from us. your daughter and you should be the most important. if it is not that way then u may love him but he will never love u the same. dont be afriad of makeing a life altering decision because the future is always brighter. your mom is all the support u need now if he isnt gonna give it to you. stay strong and stand up to him. it will all work out in the end. i will keep u in my thoughts.

oh yeah i forgot to tell u guys we got back together like 2 weeks after she left. and now 8 years down the line we are going stronger than ever. that was the best decision she ever made for both of us. made us alot stronger.

[Pokerkitty6]

Ringo hit the nail on the head with this one and I think Cherish is the key word. If you appreciate what you have and the choice you made then make it work. Treat each other as you would a best friend and remember what your mother taught you. If you don't have something nice to say then don't say it at all. Never ever call each other names and learn how to talk without yelling, this will be learned very quickly by your daughter. Remember you both made the choice to have each other in your life, this was the choice you both made. Do you still want it? If so make it happen. You have one life, don't waste it being angry. Enjoy life every single day, make a point of laughing and having a smile on your face. Besides, if you smile everyday, chances are you won't have frown lines on your face when you get old. Please try to enjoy your life, make each day count.

[BnLM5]

well girlfriend ill be honest with you. i kinda did the same thing to my wife early on in our relationship when we had our 1st child. i yelled at everything due to the strees of having a kid. i never realized that i was doing wrong because i was doing it so often it felt natural. i always thought in my head that if i dont hit her its not abuse. boy was i wrong. well all said and done she left me one new years eve when i was in lake tahoe. when i got home after 4 days of partying there was nothing left in the house besides my tv, a couch and my cloths. boy was i hurt. she left a note and told me all the wrongs i had done to her. i nerver knew i was doing wrong till that day. boy was that a eye opener. well i cried for like 3 days because both of my babies were gone and i wanted them back. i was finally able to get a hold of her and we talked. i normally would have started to yell but i had a epiphany by her leaving and i talked to her in a calm and collective voice and reasoned with her. well i wasnt mad at her it actually gave me alot of respect for to do what she did. i was more sad then anything. dont let ADD be the excuse because him yelling at has nothing to do with ADD. i say move with your mom and let him realize what he has lost. do it when he isnt around to get the full effect. i would never wish this on anyone but have done it and dont want to see anyone else go thru it. as for friends ehhh friends come and go only the friends u grow up with are the ones u can count on. maybe u can rekindle a old friendsship with some one u went to school with. u never know. dont sit around and think he will change on his own because he wont. trust me ive been where he is now. we dont know we are doing wrong till something is taken away from us. your daughter and you should be the most important. if it is not that way then u may love him but he will never love u the same. dont be afriad of makeing a life altering decision because the future is always brighter. your mom is all the support u need now if he isnt gonna give it to you. stay strong and stand up to him. it will all work out in the end. i will keep u in my thoughts.

GlowBug do you really think that only the friends that you grow up with are the ones you can count on? I am just curious as I have met people throughout my life and have found some true friends. And not many of my true friends did I even know growing up. But I met them later in life. I met my best friend "Lori" about almost 10 years ago which would have put me at the age 33. I can count on her for ANYTHING and She can count on me the same. But I never knew her growing up. True friends are hard to come by that's for sure. I take the word friend very serious when it comes down to it. And the value of friendship is priceless.

[GloBug]

GlowBug do you really think that only the friends that you grow up with are the ones you can count on? I am just curious as I have met people throughout my life and have found some true friends. And not many of my true friends did I even know growing up. But I met them later in life. I met my best friend "Lori" about almost 10 years ago which would have put me at the age 33. I can count on her for ANYTHING and She can count on me the same. But I never knew her growing up. True friends are hard to come by that's for sure. I take the word friend very serious when it comes down to it. And the value of friendship is priceless.

well it all depends. ill tell u this that all my friends that are in my inner circle are friends from high school. i mean these guys and girl are my closests friends and they are like my brothers and sisters. i would do anything for them as they would do for me. well 2 of my guy friends are my girls godfathers. i trust them with my kids lives for sure. i was using this for her just to see if she could reconnect with someone that she was close with in high school. i have met people not from my past and they have become friends but not my inner cirlce friends. i guess we also grew up at different times. i think for her sake that just trying this is better for her because then she could catch up on old times and relive her past. its always a good thing. it was just me but we all have our opinion.

[GloBug]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.

the size of your waistline shouldnt judge love to your partner. keep that in mind. my wife got a little big when she had our second child but i never looked at it that way. i still loved her no matter what. thats what u call true love. there is nothing like it. dont let being a single mom stop u from any of your dreams.