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[bouks999]

ty much i will. I dont know if hes letting of steam but he can be pretty rude sometimes. Like today when he was sleeping i took the lasagna out of the oven and didnt wake him he called me stupid for leaving it out that long and not waking him. He can get nasty. I tell he needs anger management cus he does. He gets mad bc im on the com alot but its my time to relax i work he doesnt bc he has to take our daughter to the hospital. But it seems like hes on my ***

[PANAMHIEST]

I would reccomend maybe a few days awy. go spend some time with your mom, and just get away for while, but dont reak up yet. When you come back after having a few calm conversation on the phone about how you feel, things should change for the better for a while. Sounds like yall just need to get out of each others hair for a while.

[BnLM5]

ty much i will. I dont know if hes letting of steam but he can be pretty rude sometimes. Like today when he was sleeping i took the lasagna out of the oven and didnt wake him he called me stupid for leaving it out that long and not waking him. He can get nasty. I tell he needs anger management cus he does. He gets mad bc im on the com alot but its my time to relax i work he doesnt bc he has to take our daughter to the hospital. But it seems like hes on my ***

I don't know your situation so it is really hard to say what I think about it. But from the part I do hear you feel like you are being mistreated in some way as you are down about it. You also sound resentful to me. As I think he handled the lasagna situation very rudely in my opinion. There are much better ways to tell you that maybe it would be a better idea to put food in the frig if we don't plan on eating it right away in the future. Rather than be an *** about it. You sound angry that you have to work and he doesn't I don't blame you but then you say because he has to take your daughter to the hospital. So I can't say that I think he is wrong because I don't know the situation with the hospital. But the truth of the matter is.... That you are really the only one that knows what you "should" do. Sometimes the things that we should do are not always the things that we want to do. And that sucks!

[freeringo]

ty much i will. I dont know if hes letting of steam but he can be pretty rude sometimes. Like today when he was sleeping i took the lasagna out of the oven and didnt wake him he called me stupid for leaving it out that long and not waking him. He can get nasty. I tell he needs anger management cus he does. He gets mad bc im on the com alot but its my time to relax i work he doesnt bc he has to take our daughter to the hospital. But it seems like hes on my ***

This is a very good quality post.
This is what we are here for, to help other members get through life events. We are your friends bouks999. I just realized you were a girl.
I am going to give you an answer to your questions in a little while.
I have alot to say on this subject and I want to think about it longer.
First advice is to be patient and don't over react to his extreme behavior.
You need to be a rock for what I am about to tell you to do.

[BnLM5]

This is a very good quality post.
This is what we are here for, to help other members get through life events. We are your friends bouks999. I just realized you were a girl.
I am going to give you an answer to your questions in a little while.
I have alot to say on this subject and I want to think about it longer.
First advice is to be patient and don't over react to his extreme behavior.
You need to be a rock for what I am about to tell you to do.

Ringo, Ringo, Ringo.... the last post that I read of yours with a response to bouks999, you said (NDN wrote a post on this but I am too lazy to look for it for you) or something to that effect. But now that you have realized that bouks999 is a girl now you are gonna put some time into this post. Even though I think you will give her very good and honest, sound advise. I still think that's funny, and you made me laugh!

[freeringo]

Ringo, Ringo, Ringo.... the last post that I read of yours with a response to bouks999, you said (NDN wrote a post on this but I am too lazy to look for it for you) or something to that effect. But now that you have realized that bouks999 is a girl now you are gonna put some time into this post. Even though I think you will give her very good and honest, sound advise. I still think that's funny, and you made me laugh!

It was the truth, I was too lazy.
The girl factor is not important.
The subject matter is.

Lori Lori Lori
I am glad you are laughing while reading between the lines.

[BnLM5]

It was the truth, I was too lazy.
The girl factor is not important.
The subject matter is.

Lori Lori Lori
I am glad you are laughing while reading between the lines.

I laughed again when I just read it again to see if I missed a line or two. haha! What lines am I skipping? I need you to point them out to me please. I usually don't miss too much.

[freeringo]

I laughed again when I just read it again to see if I missed a line or two. haha! What lines am I skipping? I need you to point them out to me please. I usually don't miss too much.

I got honey do's to do and don't have time to look many things up.
Boy did that sound corny
I can live with it.

[freeringo]

I laughed again when I just read it again to see if I missed a line or two. haha! What lines am I skipping? I need you to point them out to me please. I usually don't miss too much.

Here's something you might want to miss.
My daughter thought it was hilarious.

[freeringo]

ty much i will. I dont know if hes letting of steam but he can be pretty rude sometimes. Like today when he was sleeping i took the lasagna out of the oven and didnt wake him he called me stupid for leaving it out that long and not waking him. He can get nasty. I tell he needs anger management cus he does. He gets mad bc im on the com alot but its my time to relax i work he doesnt bc he has to take our daughter to the hospital. But it seems like hes on my ***

Tough Love is in order.
You are working and he is not. He needs to find comfort in his roll in your family. Rolls are changing in many families. I am not working and my wife works. I don't want it that way. The last 15 years I have done everything in my power so she didn't have to work. Things change and we all need to roll with the punches.
First things first.
Write him a heartfelt letter while at work or away from home.
Describe your love for him and understanding for what he might be going through emotionally. Tell him how proud you are of him for excepting his roll as a house dad. Tell him that you are so excited about the life you will both share. Tell him and believe in your heart that he is your best friend. Tell him how his displays of anger upsets you and hurts your heart as well as your daughters. Don't ever tell him he needs anger management.
That fuels the fire in a man. No one in my oppinion needs anger management because it is so much simpler than that. Anger Management can complicate and confuse the situation.
Tell him what you expect of him on a daily basis around the house without scolding or getting mad about it. Be sexually submissive, this will help him
stay confident about his manhood. Let him wear the pants in the family.
It takes time for a man to adjust to a domestic roll.

Now back to the simple plan.

Tell the truth at all times and your verbage should be supportive.
Even in an argument, realize that both of you need to vent, some more than others. Venting is so important, but just as important is being able to react positively to the others venting.
This is why the letter is so important. Let him know that you want him to vent and you understand his need too. But, for your daughters sake, he needs to learn to tone it down some and be made to realize that venting is healthy for his emotional state as long as he sees it as venting and doesn't see it as anger or frustration.
It sounds like you are the more stable one emotionally, but sexually submissive does not mean you should be submissive in the family forum.
You are the worker in the family and you should demand from both your man and your daughter some simple comforts when you get home.
Dinner made, house clean and the clothes washed. Don't be a ***** about it unless it just isn't getting done, then you have a bigger problem.
Everyone has the ability to change, have faith that your man can overcome his weaknesses and become a vital part of your families life.
Here's a good one to use:
Tell him that he is the glue that holds your family together and that neither one of you could make it on your own.

It's a scary world out there by yourself. Cherish what you have and the family you have made together. You both are truly blessed, now it's time to work on your emotional health for a while. Stay positive even through
the bad times, because being consumed by negativity is no way to live.

[BnLM5]

Tough Love is in order.
You are working and he is not. He needs to find comfort in his roll in your family. Rolls are changing in many families. I am not working and my wife works. I don't want it that way. The last 15 years I have done everything in my power so she didn't have to work. Things change and we all need to roll with the punches.
First things first.
Write him a heartfelt letter while at work or away from home.
Describe your love for him and understanding for what he might be going through emotionally. Tell him how proud you are of him for excepting his roll as a house dad. Tell him that you are so excited about the life you will both share. Tell him and believe in your heart that he is your best friend. Tell him how his displays of anger upsets you and hurts your heart as well as your daughters. Don't ever tell him he needs anger management.
That fuels the fire in a man. No one in my oppinion needs anger management because it is so much simpler than that. Anger Management can complicate and confuse the situation.
Tell him what you expect of him on a daily basis around the house without scolding or getting mad about it. Be sexually submissive, this will help him
stay confident about his manhood. Let him wear the pants in the family.
It takes time for a man to adjust to a domestic roll.

Now back to the simple plan.

Tell the truth at all times and your verbage should be supportive.
Even in an argument, realize that both of you need to vent, some more than others. Venting is so important, but just as important is being able to react positively to the others venting.
This is why the letter is so important. Let him know that you want him to vent and you understand his need too. But, for your daughters sake, he needs to learn to tone it down some and be made to realize that venting is healthy for his emotional state as long as he sees it as venting and doesn't see it as anger or frustration.
It sounds like you are the more stable one emotionally, but sexually submissive does not mean you should be submissive in the family forum.
You are the worker in the family and you should demand from both your man and your daughter some simple comforts when you get home.
Dinner made, house clean and the clothes washed. Don't be a ***** about it unless it just isn't getting done, then you have a bigger problem.
Everyone has the ability to change, have faith that your man can overcome his weaknesses and become a vital part of your families life.
Here's a good one to use:
Tell him that he is the glue that holds your family together and that neither one of you could make it on your own.

It's a scary world out there by yourself. Cherish what you have and the family you have made together. You both are truly blessed, now it's time to work on your emotional health for a while. Stay positive even through
the bad times, because being consumed by negativity is no way to live.

Wow Ringo, I think you should be a counselor or something along the lines. really that was very nicely put. I believe you meant it. And maybe that is the way you want to be treated. Either way it was a nice post. very well thought out.

[freeringo]

Wow Ringo, I think you should be a counselor or something along the lines. really that was very nicely put. I believe you meant it. And maybe that is the way you want to be treated. Either way it was a nice post. very well thought out.

That is the way that I am treated and the way I live my life.
Counseling would be OK for awhile, but after lsitening to everyones crud for a couple months would change the person I am inside.
No thanks

[BnLM5]

That is the way that I am treated and the way I live my life.
Counseling would be OK for awhile, but after lsitening to everyones crud for a couple months would change the person I am inside.
No thanks

You always have something nice to say about your wife. She must be a wonderful person. I wish that certain people in my life would learn or realize what the important things in life are. I long for it always!

[freeringo]

You always have something nice to say about your wife. She must be a wonderful person. I wish that certain people in my life would learn or realize what the important things in life are. I long for it always!

She's my best friend and I can't remember the last time we had a fight.
Over 10 years at least.

[bouks999]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.