Love

[freeringo]

ty much i will. I dont know if hes letting of steam but he can be pretty rude sometimes. Like today when he was sleeping i took the lasagna out of the oven and didnt wake him he called me stupid for leaving it out that long and not waking him. He can get nasty. I tell he needs anger management cus he does. He gets mad bc im on the com alot but its my time to relax i work he doesnt bc he has to take our daughter to the hospital. But it seems like hes on my ***

Tough Love is in order.
You are working and he is not. He needs to find comfort in his roll in your family. Rolls are changing in many families. I am not working and my wife works. I don't want it that way. The last 15 years I have done everything in my power so she didn't have to work. Things change and we all need to roll with the punches.
First things first.
Write him a heartfelt letter while at work or away from home.
Describe your love for him and understanding for what he might be going through emotionally. Tell him how proud you are of him for excepting his roll as a house dad. Tell him that you are so excited about the life you will both share. Tell him and believe in your heart that he is your best friend. Tell him how his displays of anger upsets you and hurts your heart as well as your daughters. Don't ever tell him he needs anger management.
That fuels the fire in a man. No one in my oppinion needs anger management because it is so much simpler than that. Anger Management can complicate and confuse the situation.
Tell him what you expect of him on a daily basis around the house without scolding or getting mad about it. Be sexually submissive, this will help him
stay confident about his manhood. Let him wear the pants in the family.
It takes time for a man to adjust to a domestic roll.

Now back to the simple plan.

Tell the truth at all times and your verbage should be supportive.
Even in an argument, realize that both of you need to vent, some more than others. Venting is so important, but just as important is being able to react positively to the others venting.
This is why the letter is so important. Let him know that you want him to vent and you understand his need too. But, for your daughters sake, he needs to learn to tone it down some and be made to realize that venting is healthy for his emotional state as long as he sees it as venting and doesn't see it as anger or frustration.
It sounds like you are the more stable one emotionally, but sexually submissive does not mean you should be submissive in the family forum.
You are the worker in the family and you should demand from both your man and your daughter some simple comforts when you get home.
Dinner made, house clean and the clothes washed. Don't be a ***** about it unless it just isn't getting done, then you have a bigger problem.
Everyone has the ability to change, have faith that your man can overcome his weaknesses and become a vital part of your families life.
Here's a good one to use:
Tell him that he is the glue that holds your family together and that neither one of you could make it on your own.

It's a scary world out there by yourself. Cherish what you have and the family you have made together. You both are truly blessed, now it's time to work on your emotional health for a while. Stay positive even through
the bad times, because being consumed by negativity is no way to live.

[BnLM5]

Tough Love is in order.
You are working and he is not. He needs to find comfort in his roll in your family. Rolls are changing in many families. I am not working and my wife works. I don't want it that way. The last 15 years I have done everything in my power so she didn't have to work. Things change and we all need to roll with the punches.
First things first.
Write him a heartfelt letter while at work or away from home.
Describe your love for him and understanding for what he might be going through emotionally. Tell him how proud you are of him for excepting his roll as a house dad. Tell him that you are so excited about the life you will both share. Tell him and believe in your heart that he is your best friend. Tell him how his displays of anger upsets you and hurts your heart as well as your daughters. Don't ever tell him he needs anger management.
That fuels the fire in a man. No one in my oppinion needs anger management because it is so much simpler than that. Anger Management can complicate and confuse the situation.
Tell him what you expect of him on a daily basis around the house without scolding or getting mad about it. Be sexually submissive, this will help him
stay confident about his manhood. Let him wear the pants in the family.
It takes time for a man to adjust to a domestic roll.

Now back to the simple plan.

Tell the truth at all times and your verbage should be supportive.
Even in an argument, realize that both of you need to vent, some more than others. Venting is so important, but just as important is being able to react positively to the others venting.
This is why the letter is so important. Let him know that you want him to vent and you understand his need too. But, for your daughters sake, he needs to learn to tone it down some and be made to realize that venting is healthy for his emotional state as long as he sees it as venting and doesn't see it as anger or frustration.
It sounds like you are the more stable one emotionally, but sexually submissive does not mean you should be submissive in the family forum.
You are the worker in the family and you should demand from both your man and your daughter some simple comforts when you get home.
Dinner made, house clean and the clothes washed. Don't be a ***** about it unless it just isn't getting done, then you have a bigger problem.
Everyone has the ability to change, have faith that your man can overcome his weaknesses and become a vital part of your families life.
Here's a good one to use:
Tell him that he is the glue that holds your family together and that neither one of you could make it on your own.

It's a scary world out there by yourself. Cherish what you have and the family you have made together. You both are truly blessed, now it's time to work on your emotional health for a while. Stay positive even through
the bad times, because being consumed by negativity is no way to live.

Wow Ringo, I think you should be a counselor or something along the lines. really that was very nicely put. I believe you meant it. And maybe that is the way you want to be treated. Either way it was a nice post. very well thought out.

[freeringo]

Wow Ringo, I think you should be a counselor or something along the lines. really that was very nicely put. I believe you meant it. And maybe that is the way you want to be treated. Either way it was a nice post. very well thought out.

That is the way that I am treated and the way I live my life.
Counseling would be OK for awhile, but after lsitening to everyones crud for a couple months would change the person I am inside.
No thanks

[BnLM5]

That is the way that I am treated and the way I live my life.
Counseling would be OK for awhile, but after lsitening to everyones crud for a couple months would change the person I am inside.
No thanks

You always have something nice to say about your wife. She must be a wonderful person. I wish that certain people in my life would learn or realize what the important things in life are. I long for it always!

[freeringo]

You always have something nice to say about your wife. She must be a wonderful person. I wish that certain people in my life would learn or realize what the important things in life are. I long for it always!

She's my best friend and I can't remember the last time we had a fight.
Over 10 years at least.

[bouks999]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.

[taylovesthebeatles]

Listen to Ringo, his advice is completely right in my opinion.

[BnLM5]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.

Just hang in there. I know that when I am depressed and I don't want my mind to be on worry especially about my relationship I also get online and I stay there. I hide so deep into NDN forums that if we had tents I would sleep here too. I am so happy to hear the you daughter is in remission. That is wonderful. And as far as the weight goes you will lose it. Sometimes it just takes time. I know the more I set at this computer and the more Pepsi I drink the more I know I am gonna get fat. I just keep telling my husband that if I get fat there will just be a lot more of me to love. lolz

[GloBug]

ty so much fro the advice. So i had another post that i was trying to write but he made me delete so here goes. I told him today that he hurts me and shouldnt put me down. How would he feel if i put him down. So i feel really depressed im not getting any younger. I need to get my GED and go to college. I wanna be a crime scene investigator. I need to get off my butt but im so really depressed its kinda hard. So i put my face in front of this com so much bc it gets me away from reality. Another thing that depresses me is that i was a size 5 when i got pregnate and now im slowly loosing. And my daughter being in remission gives me something to believe in. And BTW i am female lol. My dad gave the nickname bouks when i was really little. So i use it all the time. So back to the situation at hand. I think im gonna have a serious talk with him. He doesnt understand why i dont wanna spend more time with him. Its bc it always seems like hes mad at me over nothing. I just wish he would chill out sometimes.

the size of your waistline shouldnt judge love to your partner. keep that in mind. my wife got a little big when she had our second child but i never looked at it that way. i still loved her no matter what. thats what u call true love. there is nothing like it. dont let being a single mom stop u from any of your dreams.