Love

[BnLM5]

Tough Love is in order.
You are working and he is not. He needs to find comfort in his roll in your family. Rolls are changing in many families. I am not working and my wife works. I don't want it that way. The last 15 years I have done everything in my power so she didn't have to work. Things change and we all need to roll with the punches.
First things first.
Write him a heartfelt letter while at work or away from home.
Describe your love for him and understanding for what he might be going through emotionally. Tell him how proud you are of him for excepting his roll as a house dad. Tell him that you are so excited about the life you will both share. Tell him and believe in your heart that he is your best friend. Tell him how his displays of anger upsets you and hurts your heart as well as your daughters. Don't ever tell him he needs anger management.
That fuels the fire in a man. No one in my oppinion needs anger management because it is so much simpler than that. Anger Management can complicate and confuse the situation.
Tell him what you expect of him on a daily basis around the house without scolding or getting mad about it. Be sexually submissive, this will help him
stay confident about his manhood. Let him wear the pants in the family.
It takes time for a man to adjust to a domestic roll.

Now back to the simple plan.

Tell the truth at all times and your verbage should be supportive.
Even in an argument, realize that both of you need to vent, some more than others. Venting is so important, but just as important is being able to react positively to the others venting.
This is why the letter is so important. Let him know that you want him to vent and you understand his need too. But, for your daughters sake, he needs to learn to tone it down some and be made to realize that venting is healthy for his emotional state as long as he sees it as venting and doesn't see it as anger or frustration.
It sounds like you are the more stable one emotionally, but sexually submissive does not mean you should be submissive in the family forum.
You are the worker in the family and you should demand from both your man and your daughter some simple comforts when you get home.
Dinner made, house clean and the clothes washed. Don't be a ***** about it unless it just isn't getting done, then you have a bigger problem.
Everyone has the ability to change, have faith that your man can overcome his weaknesses and become a vital part of your families life.
Here's a good one to use:
Tell him that he is the glue that holds your family together and that neither one of you could make it on your own.

It's a scary world out there by yourself. Cherish what you have and the family you have made together. You both are truly blessed, now it's time to work on your emotional health for a while. Stay positive even through
the bad times, because being consumed by negativity is no way to live.

Wow Ringo, I think you should be a counselor or something along the lines. really that was very nicely put. I believe you meant it. And maybe that is the way you want to be treated. Either way it was a nice post. very well thought out.