I need some advise

[BirdShow]

My advice would be don't forget to take care of #1. That's not being selfish. Selfish would be

to let this continue on when the stress obviously affects you in an unhealthy manner.

When that situation gets worse how do you think it will impact not just you but,

your family?

Doing the right thing isn't always easy.

[freeringo]

My advice would be don't forget to take care of #1. That's not being selfish. Selfish would be

to let this continue on when the stress obviously affects you in an unhealthy manner.

When that situation gets worse how do you think it will impact not just you but,

your family?

Doing the right thing isn't always easy.

My families health is 10 times more important.
It's not worth an extra $600 a month.
My wife is so relieved! The thing I forgot to mention is that
my wife was married to Bobs estranged son w/ 2 kids.
She hates Bob.
Enough said.
She still my best friend.

[taylovesthebeatles]

My families health is 10 times more important.
It's not worth an extra $600 a month.
My wife is so relieved! The thing I forgot to mention is that
my wife was married to Bobs estranged son w/ 2 kids.
She hates Bob.
Enough said.
She still my best friend.

Yeah you definitely needed to get out for your wife's sake too. Good job buddy. I'm proud of you for doing the right thing, as I said.

[woohoosue]

freeringo ..as this story developed I too see that your letter is/was the best solution. Sometimes our best intentions just enable people to continue a bad situation. I was a caregiver for a family member with outside help. When her mental stabilty weakened it became a bad situation but we continued on until she kicked a nurse.

As a family member you feel a duty to honor them by keeping them home but it takes a tole on both the caregiver and the patient. Sad to say though that her visits may still be met with distain if she puts him in a facility... it will be up to Bob to make that happen.

It's out of your hands now....You sound like a very caring individual and I'm sure another client will come along and those talents will be put to better use....

Give your wife a hug from me....I know how ex's can be.