Torn In Two

[kingsnthahole]

listen, if there's one thing i learned after screwing up alot, alot, alot of times in college, it's that things always seem to work themselves out...not at all saying you screwed up, just using my personal experiences for example...and that guy you were with, he's not a man, he's a little girl for beating up on a woman...guys that beat women, usually dont have the balls to stand up to real men when the situation arises...stuff like this angers me very much, bc my mother went through physical and mental abuse from her second husband, whom i threatened with a baseball bat at age 17...anyways, goodluck in court, give yuor daughter a hug bc you both need it, and like tupac says...Keep ya head up!

[NeverWinHere]

listen, if there's one thing i learned after screwing up alot, alot, alot of times in college, it's that things always seem to work themselves out...not at all saying you screwed up, just using my personal experiences for example...and that guy you were with, he's not a man, he's a little girl for beating up on a woman...guys that beat women, usually dont have the balls to stand up to real men when the situation arises...stuff like this angers me very much, bc my mother went through physical and mental abuse from her second husband, whom i threatened with a baseball bat at age 17...anyways, goodluck in court, give yuor daughter a hug bc you both need it, and like tupac says...Keep ya head up!

Yeah actually he was too ****y. I called the cops on him long ago was about 6 yrs ago, he was hitting me, not as sever as this time but still. Anyways this rookie cop shows up, and he got all the info and was telling my ex he is under arrest, and to put his hands behind his back. My ex told him, "you ain't arresting nobody, see that dog right there(he pointed to our dog, (a big american bulldog) if you try to touch me him and I will fu*k you up" I heard this i was inside they were outside, the cop then comes in the house and tells me, "is there somewhere you can go for the night, I don't feel like getting my *** kicked" I was like are you fn serious? No there aint nowhere I can go. Anyways after that, I never called them anymore, and I was hit a lot, b ut this last time, we were in a new city, and I was tired of it, and he hurt me really bad, so I called again, and I was so worried they wouldt do anything, but they did.

[taylovesthebeatles]

We will see you through this. You are not alone.

[knowledge]

Hope everything worksout well for you and your daughter today. Please protect her and yourself. Do whatever you can to survive. Your friend Jeff

[NeverWinHere]

Just wanted to update on what's going on.

I got a call last night around 10pm, it was an automated message stating that he was released from jail. I got pretty upset, I thought things were finally going to happne, jury selection etc. So apparently his lawyer told him if he switched his plea to guilty, he would get out that day, so that's what he did.

He was ordered to take 52 weeks of Domestic Violence classes, and pay a $1,500 court fine. Ok big deal. As glad as I am that my daughter will not have to be put through the stress of testifying, I feel ripped off.

I am so messed up over this on so many levels, and probably will be for while. I also know my daughter is having some issues from what she saw, and may have problems in the future. His charges were dropped to misdemeanors. As a victim, I feel like this is not just, but what is?

[Lilred36]

I sure hope things get alot better for you, somehow I missed this post.ND is right not easy to read.I hope all is well and one day he will get whats coming to him.

[twenty47]

what crap huh? but you are lucky that it's over and now it's up to you to make sure he isn't allowed around your home. remember it's your home and not his! Your the one who has to stop him from coming around because the law wont always be there to help. You were also lucky that when this did happen that the court was moving so fast. Normally things like this drag on forever before it actually goes to court and FYI they would never have put your daughter on the stand because prosecutors wont allow a child so young to be cross examined. They may have just interviewed her and used her statement out loud. (PS/ i know all this from friends that have experienced the same thing)

and maybe ask about Victim's services. There is a lot of help out there. They will help in every way they can and offer counselling to you and your daughter if you feel you need it. good luck and remember it's your move next, what you want to happen with this guy is your choice.