Torn In Two

[NeverWinHere]

Had something serious happen to me Friday, just wanted to update you all in case you were wondering why I hadn't been around.

At about 5am Friday morning my ex beat me up in front of our 7 yr old daughter. He was arrested for 2 felonies. Corporal injury to a cohabitant, and a count of child endangerment.

This event has totally rattled me physically, and mentally. I have slept 6 hrs in the last 2 days. I feel so blah, like almost worthless, kind of weird. I really have no support, or anyone to talk to besides some stranger on some emergency hotline.

I was granted a temporary order of protection against him and he can not come within 100 yards of us. This expired Friday. I will try to get a permanent one.

I am so torn. THis is my daughter's father, always been in her life daily. I also feel like, this has happened before, (not this bad), but happens about once a year. This was the 1st time my daughter has witnessed anything. She was so scared. He was actually reaching over her, to punch me in the face. Terrible, I feel so sick inside. I can't sleep. I fall asleep and wake up within 30 minutes gasping for air, freaking out, I don't know why. I can't relax.

My daughter is carrying his picture around, whining, and telling me "this is all your fault," or "you did this." It makes me feel so sick, I just cry. I haven't eaten since this happened either. I spent a night at the hospital, nothing broken, but bad bruising and cuts on my face. The police took lots of pictures.

I don't know what to do. I feel bad for my daughter. I really have a hard time opening up to people, but I feel like I have gotten to know some of you here, and thought it would be good for me to get this out and maybe get some advice, or thoughts.

I hope this is easy enough to read. My thoughts are scrambled and am sure there are typos.

Thanks....

[nodepositneeded]

This was not easy to read, but not because it was poorly written.

I can't even begin to imagine what you have been going through.

I have no advice but I know that if this has happened once it has already happened too many times.

I'm sure it can't be easy, but I hope you're able to make a change that will benefit both you and your daughter.

You have many friends here if you ever need anything or just need to talk.

NDN

[Dallas12]

Well first of all I am sorry to hear that. My sister went through the same thing. She got a restraining order and that did not work. So she came to me and told me what happen. And when she did that I took care of it. But you need to be safe. For you and your daughter. I really hope everthing works out for you.

[eejit101]

IF you wanna talk........ email/msn/aim/phone me up.

Dont really know what to say on here

[taylovesthebeatles]

I am so very sorry. Please know that I will be keeping you and your daughter in my prayers, and praying for a safe solution for all of you. Know that you do not suffer alone, and there are people out there willing to help in any way they can, even if it is just to listen. I am also available by chat, just look me up any time. Stay safe.

[tomas225]

i did understand it

[ffcowboy76]

Never, if this comes off cold and unemotional please forgive me. I'm going to take the approach I take at work. First and foremost is to find a safe place for both you and your daughter. Second, you need to sit down with your daughter and explained what happened and why "Daddy" got in trouble. Third, you need to get as far away from him as possible. It's be documented thousands of times that if a women gets abused once, it will continue until the situation is changed, usually by the aggressor going to jail. Please seek out help, both for you and your daughter. Visit a councilor, a close friend, a parent, or a stranger that will listen. There is a "mental" condition called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It's when something bad happens and the brain walls off the memories to protect the person. The only problems is that you will have flashbacks, reoccurring memories, and other problems that will affect your ability to be a parent. I've dealt with others that have been in your situation through my job. I tell them the exact same advice. I know it will be hard, but it's worse if you stay for your daughters sake. If you every need to talk, look me up on Yahoo, I will make sure it's posted in my profile.