Say it like you mean it contest

[freeringo]

3 LUCKY WINNERS WILL GET TONIGHTS PASSWORD
FOR THE $25 GAME AT CAKE WORTH 500 CHIPS EACH.

To win you must post at least 25 words on this question:

How do you inspire self confidence in others?

Contest ends at 4pm pacific time

Our panel of experts will review each post and make
their decisions at 4pm.

Remember to SAY IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT

GOOD LUCK

Game starts 1 1/2 hour after contest
so check back to see if you won.

[Pokerkitty6]

How do you inspire self confidence in others?

This question reminds me of my nephew, Matthew. He was burned over 80% of his body at age 3 and is a life time Shriner's patient. He is 14 years old now. People stare at him all the time. The first time I went out bald, I knew what he felt like. One day when he was around 6 years old, I heard him calling a couple of girls a "ho", I said Matthew stop calling them names, do you know what a ho is? He says no, so I tell him it's not nice to call people names. He says they were calling me names first. What did they call you? He wouldn't tell me. I said, does that bother you? He says yes. I say why? He says I don't know. I told him you can't waste your time with people like that. I asked him are they your friends, he says no, are they your family- no- do you know them- no- do you love them- no way-I said ok then don't let it bother you. If you don't know them, they are not your friends or family, you don't love them, so who cares what they say? He laughed and said you're right, they are nothing to me. I told him regardless of what you look like people will call you names for the rest of your life, don't respond to it. I told him one day a lady called me a bit ch, he asked me what did you do, I told him nothing, except tell her she's got it all wrong, I'm not the bit ch, that's my sister. He started to laugh again. Soon after this conversation we were at a restaurant and this old guy kept staring at Matthew, I was not sure what he would do. Matt goes over to the old guy and hey mister take your hat off, the old guy didn't know what to do so he takes his hat off, Matt says put it back on, you're ugly without it. Matt returns to his seat and says I feel better, he's not starring at me anymore. I have shared this story over and over again. When it comes to people calling you names or staring at your disability....if you do not know them, they are not your friends or family, who cares, don't waste your time on people like that. Matt's confidence level is very high today and he plays football for his highschool team. The other teams are afraid they will hurt him by the way he looks, but I tell you he is one of my hero's in life and the strongest person I have ever met. I have a picture of him on my wall with the words "Deal with it" My personal note to self, if Matt can be this strong with surgeries every time he grows to strech his skin (human torture) then I can handle cancer. We have given self confidence to each other. Thank you for letting me share this.

[markjfixit]

I would like to win the generous offer but,, I find it hard alot of times to instill confidence in myself so doing it for others is easier in some ways and not in others. I generally like to wish people here good luck in there games even though I am not in the BAP or have any stake in it. I think people like to hear it since there being watched by alot of people rather than just a risk of there own money. I think its very easy to tell a little kid you can do it and clap they get all excited and smile even if they suck at a sport or whatever positive reinforcement goes along way. I think as an adult either your confident or your not. 50 people can tell you your a great poker player but if the individual doesnt feel it it wont ever happen. were born alone we die alone and if a person needs others to make them feel worthy then there in for alot of disapointment.

[taylovesthebeatles]

Just a question, is it possible to have this prize redeemed for another game? I have class and won't be able to play in the game tonight, but I will in a future game. Either way I will think of something to write here later, as it has been very encouraging to me to read other posts here! You should write something too, I think. And make NDN do one, he's too quiet sometimes.

[freeringo]

Pokerkitty is the front runner
Thanks for that, it was a beautiful story.
Tay you can win 500 chips to do what you want to with.
Markfixit, you do inspire me with your calm spirit and don't think we don't notice. You hit it on the nose about being able to love yourself
is more important than getting approval from others.
But it sure feels good when you get it.

[PANAMHIEST]

Inspiration, hmmmm.....


Something I personally havent had too much of lately. Inspiration is not something that you try to get, by reading self help books, or something that can be done by going to the shrink. Inspiration just kinda comes to you, like a faint wind on a still day, or a good friend you havent seen in a long time. Somw things that I have found that trigger Inspiration is here, at NDN!, going on a fishing trip to get away from everything, accomplishing something that you have been meaning or wanting to accomplish.

I can find Inspiration just by reading or hearing the life stories of others. In poker inspiration can come just by watching my favorite player, phil ivey, at the ivey thunderdome.

Inspiration is not something that you can reach out and grab with your hands at will, and use when needed. If anything, its a kind spirit, waiting for that right moment, when your heart is ready, then you join hands, and you feel it, and it is one of the best feelings in the world.

[freeringo]

Pokerkitty and Markfixit tie for 1st and win the password for tonights game
worth 500 chips.

Panamhiest and thenutzaa tied for 3rd and get 250 chips each added to account
I noticed thenutz in the game already too

Passwords will be pm'd shortly.

NDN has approved this and will adjust my chip count.

Congratulations to the winners.

Heartfelt

[GloBug]

well i say u spank them in the arse and kick em. if that dont work u shoot at them. lol i totally missed out.

[freeringo]

well i say u spank them in the arse and kick em. if that dont work u shoot at them. lol i totally missed out.

Like you need the chips

lets hear it anyway.

rah rah ree

[GloBug]

Like you need the chips

lets hear it anyway.

rah rah ree

well i just got these due to your buddy from brazil cheating. he won the dam drawing again for the 3rd time and his chip stack never changed when he bought some tickets. i just got the refund. i was down to like 500 chips b4 i got these. lol tells u how many i bought.

[Pokerkitty6]

Thanks for the contest Ringo, I appreciate it! C-ya at the table tonight and good luck all!

[markjfixit]

Pokerkitty and Markfixit tie for 1st and win the password for tonights game
worth 500 chips.

Panamhiest and thenutzaa tied for 3rd and get 250 chips each added to account
I noticed thenutz in the game already too

Passwords will be pm'd shortly.

NDN has approved this and will adjust my chip count.

Congratulations to the winners.

Heartfelt

sweet!!! I didnt think I had any chance to win. thanks alot very generous!!

[PANAMHIEST]

Awesome, glad i got third in this. Is was a fun ringo type contest, and made me think for a change, and that in itself is a inspiration!

[sweetpea]

Congratulations to the winners!! I'm all for less drama and more "butterflies and unicorns" feel-good threads. Kudos, Ringo!

[thenutzaa1]

thanks ringo missed you this month!!! glad your back