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[bouks999]

so i had another fight with my fiancee the other day bc i was on the com all night. He pulled my hair and called a worthless piece of crap. I told him he was psycho. I asked him you could out me in the hospital couldnt u he said yes i said you could kill me couldnt you he said yes. I dont know what to do im at wits end i wanna stay with him bc of our daughter but he constantly puts me down. So today someone threw out his numbers i think it wa shim but he doesnt remember and he callled me imcompetent i didnt throw them out. He also said im worthless and a ***** again for nothing. Im sick of this heartache i wish my life could be better

[TerpZone]

If he makes you feel that way all the time, I believe you already know what to do.

[GloBug]

so i had another fight with my fiancee the other day bc i was on the com all night. He pulled my hair and called a worthless piece of crap. I told him he was psycho. I asked him you could out me in the hospital couldnt u he said yes i said you could kill me couldnt you he said yes. I dont know what to do im at wits end i wanna stay with him bc of our daughter but he constantly puts me down. So today someone threw out his numbers i think it wa shim but he doesnt remember and he callled me imcompetent i didnt throw them out. He also said im worthless and a ***** again for nothing. Im sick of this heartache i wish my life could be better

o h man this makes me want to report this to the authorities due to the fact that he said he could kill you. pulling your hair is spousal abuse. u need to leave with your mom now. what are u waiting for. u can tlove someone that doesnt want to be loved. dont stay with him because of your daughter. he will do the same to her. there will be no difference she will get him mad and he will start by spanking her and then from there when she doesnt listen after a spank then he will resort to more violence. man i wish i could meet this guy and drag his *** down the street by his hair. tell ur boyfirend i called him a piece of s h i t. if u are sick and want to end the heartache u have to leave. i will guarantee u your life will be better. it might be hard at 1st because u love him but in time u will heal. please leave he is gonna end up really hurting u and i dont want to read about it on here that something has happened to you. you and your daughter come 1st. im sad and mad reading this. punk arse men that think they are tough pushing there will on women are pieces of crap. i am so against it.

[ROGUE63]

o h man this makes me want to report this to the authorities due to the fact that he said he could kill you. pulling your hair is spousal abuse. u need to leave with your mom now. what are u waiting for. u can tlove someone that doesnt want to be loved. dont stay with him because of your daughter. he will do the same to her. there will be no difference she will get him mad and he will start by spanking her and then from there when she doesnt listen after a spank then he will resort to more violence. man i wish i could meet this guy and drag his *** down the street by his hair. tell ur boyfirend i called him a piece of s h i t. if u are sick and want to end the heartache u have to leave. i will guarantee u your life will be better. it might be hard at 1st because u love him but in time u will heal. please leave he is gonna end up really hurting u and i dont want to read about it on here that something has happened to you. you and your daughter come 1st. im sad and mad reading this. punk arse men that think they are tough pushing there will on women are pieces of crap. i am so against it.

i couldnt have said it better glo!!!!!!!!!!!and the heartache will heal;some thirteen or so years ago my wife left me lol we had 2 small kids and i was totally devastated .i lost a whole lot of weight and felt like hell for a long time .but my son stayed with me while my ex took our daughter and a couple of years later my daughter only about 10 or so at the time moved back with me as well .now some 10 years or so years later my son is getting ready to go back topost secondary school and take some computer tech course;and my daughter lives about 40 minutes away and has 2 beautiful kids of her own

[BnLM5]

Bouks999 first of all you need to pack your things and move to your mothers. The very thought of him pulling your hair is one thing but for him to agree with you that he could kill you is another. He needs to take anger management and he needs to have the ever living daylights knocked out of him. He is obviously not a man and has some serious growing up to do. In my opinion, and i am a women who has lived with domestic violence you should have filed a report. You are not a worthless piece of crap. But rather a person, his girlfriend and the mother of his daughter. Don't allow him to bring you down with his issues. And they are his issues. I don't know the whole story of what is going on with the two of you and I realize that there are always three sides. I call them.... my side, your side, and the absolute truth. I am not by any means saying you are wrong. I am just saying that maybe he is not all bad and he needs some help. But the fact here is that he is abusing you both physically and mentally. If you really want to make things better for you and your family and you are truly looking for good advise then you should listen to what we have to say to you. I trust my friends here on NDN with all my heart. We all mean well and want the best for you. And for now the best thing for you to do is to get away from him. If it is only temporary. And in all honesty he is lucky to have someone who loves him like you do. And he is really lucky I or GloBug have no way to find him because he would be dealing with the authorities and not just you. Please keep us posted on what you do. Domestic violence is a serious thing and it gets easier and easier for him to hit you every time it happens.

[GloBug]

Bouks999 first of all you need to pack your things and move to your mothers. The very thought of him pulling your hair is one thing but for him to agree with you that he could kill you is another. He needs to take anger management and he needs to have the ever living daylights knocked out of him. He is obviously not a man and has some serious growing up to do. In my opinion, and i am a women who has lived with domestic violence you should have filed a report. You are not a worthless piece of crap. But rather a person, his girlfriend and the mother of his daughter. Don't allow him to bring you down with his issues. And they are his issues. I don't know the whole story of what is going on with the two of you and I realize that there are always three sides. I call them.... my side, your side, and the absolute truth. I am not by any means saying you are wrong. I am just saying that maybe he is not all bad and he needs some help. But the fact here is that he is abusing you both physically and mentally. If you really want to make things better for you and your family and you are truly looking for good advise then you should listen to what we have to say to you. I trust my friends here on NDN with all my heart. We all mean well and want the best for you. And for now the best thing for you to do is to get away from him. If it is only temporary. And in all honesty he is lucky to have someone who loves him like you do. And he is really lucky I or GloBug have no way to find him because he would be dealing with the authorities and not just you. Please keep us posted on what you do. Domestic violence is a serious thing and it gets easier and easier for him to hit you every time it happens.

amen sister. i would love to be the one to knock his teeth out. u dont know how this made me feel when i read it. brought back some bad feelings. like i said before i was verbal abusive to my wife and i hated myself for it. i am past that now and so is she. i am a advocate against those types of things. u need to leave and thats the only way you will get past it. seeing a counsleor wont work with the way he is talking. for him to say he will kill u is all wrong. maybe he is talking out of his arse because he was mad but still. also i would like to ask a seriuos question. do you provoke him in anyway? im being seriuos on that and i expect a truthfull answer. regardless of your answer he is still wrong but if u provoke him then its almost like u are asking for it. i know i am gonna some flack for saying that but its the truth. when u know that u provoke something and u know what can happen then u are asking for it in any situation not just this one. well i hope to hear form u soon. dont be afraid to leave and be afraid he will hurt you. hey did u say u lived in california because if so i would like to pay u a visit. lol

[Pokerkitty6]

First of all....ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!! If you truly love someone you could never hurt them, physically or verbally. True love always has each other's back. True love is unconditional. You love someone for who they are, not as someone you can change. I have a saying...True love is putting the other person's feeling's first. True love there is NO DOUBT! Wake up and smell the coffee. You have one life and it's your's to live, so get busy and stop being some weak *** girlie!!!

[Lilred36]

Yup, just pack up and go.he should never touch you, not much of a man that harms his wife or girlfriend.Just leave you and your child will be alot better off.

[Arsenal28]

I obviously agree with everyone here. When it comes to your daughter, all staying with him will do is show her that a man treating a woman like that is okay and she will be in the same situation you are when she is older. Show your daughter that no woman deserves to be treated like that by anyone, husband or father.

[BnLM5]

I have found a government site for you. But before you click on it you should know that if he knows how to use a computer that he can track anything you do online. So if he does it may be wise for you to go to this site from a friends house or from the library. He may not take to kindly to you looking up anything on domestic violence. This is a credible site and you can rest assured that these people can help you. (Help for Victims of Domestic Violence).

[taylovesthebeatles]

Yeah I agree with everyone who's already spoken up, especially Glo Bug. It's time. You need to get out.

[freeringo]

so i had another fight with my fiancee the other day bc i was on the com all night. He pulled my hair and called a worthless piece of crap. I told him he was psycho. I asked him you could out me in the hospital couldnt u he said yes i said you could kill me couldnt you he said yes. I dont know what to do im at wits end i wanna stay with him bc of our daughter but he constantly puts me down. So today someone threw out his numbers i think it wa shim but he doesnt remember and he callled me imcompetent i didnt throw them out. He also said im worthless and a ***** again for nothing. Im sick of this heartache i wish my life could be better

Now I am getting upset at you for dropping your drama bombs on us and then not follow up on the thread.
Your last thread about your abusive partner did not get updated at all.
You just said thanks for the advice.
What are you doing about this problem?
I am sorry to get tough but you need to be tough.
You have reached out, that is the first step.
Now take control of your life and leave the abuser behind.

After what you have described, it will take months or years for him to change his abusive ways with proper help.
Don't fool yourself to you think you can do it.
YOU CAN"T.
PROTECT YOURSELF.
NOW

[GloBug]

hey bouls you still around. i havent heard anything from u since u made this post. i hope your ok. please give us a update on how you are doing.

[woohoosue]

I obviously agree with everyone here. When it comes to your daughter, all staying with him will do is show her that a man treating a woman like that is okay and she will be in the same situation you are when she is older. Show your daughter that no woman deserves to be treated like that by anyone, husband or father.

nicely said ..oh bouk ..i dont know what to say other than please leave him before any harm comes to you or your child...you are not loved by him .... and if u think he loves your child ..he does not..no man could do this to a woman that gave him a child. He is sick...u can not be sure he will ever heal...please don't let him hurt you again..... there are places to go ... do some research and yes do this somewhere other than at home...get the help u need and rid yourself of this horror. he is not for you ...

[kingsnthahole]

you can still have your beautiful daughter without him in your life