My Black Friday

[targetguy1]

dang ringo thought i had a rough weekend. man i feel bad for you and do waht you have to do to get things the way you like them. i will pray fro you and your family

[woohoosue]

ok i could never have imagined that!.... the hug thing is great! What about her friend you have pics of on here that visited ...maybe a visit from him could do her good now....u said they were close .... she was vulnerable and got sucked into anothers demented existence... it happens ..maybe not to this degreee...but whatever.... you are dealing with it ...stick to it....she needs you to hold on to her tight now ...you are alll she has till she gets herself back....

when she says you wre mean to her.... please dont take it personal and make her express the things that made her feel that way..... things are never cut and dry ... her feelings are real ... what she says you did will not be what happened (to you) but it is how she percieved it to happen .....try to remember that your belief of how things happened are scewed also ..there is a truth and it will wind up somewhere in between.

she needs to kno we all make mistakes...and you need to own up to whatever your part was in it... do not take all the blame ..make sure she hears your side of this too ,, so she can see how you came to do what you did in this matter... you will both make mistakes in this neverending adventure you are in... make a pact that you two agree to deal with issues verbally and honestly and non judgmental with each other and that when this course of action isnt sufficient that you both agree to take it to a second party.... your wife for example....or her grandparents .. sign it make copies for alll parties to keep. You guys will get through this she is at the age of independece seeking she took a bad turn ...dont stop her from seeking independence just make sure she knows you will always be on her side and that you will always be there for her. above all tho she needs to know mutalation is not the answer and she isnt evil or bad. she used it like a drug or alcohol to run away from her depression. the key will be finding her depression trigger...could it be not having her good friend around anymore?

well gee guy ...gl

hope your friend situation clears up for him ..but u r right to go see him ..it is now your turn to help him how u can..if only to help his relatives in taking care of his property fpor him when u can. you dont need to discuss anything about his case,

free don't ever start thinking any of this is too hard to manage ..you can do this.....all the philosophy youve been handing out over the years to others....time to put some of it into action on yourself is all...your wake up call man... I know it all sound horrible and i too have no experience with mutilation but it, drugs,sex,violence, is all a diversion from reality ...reality sucks for us all at times she just needs to learn to not take it so serious ... anything , everything can be fixed .. maybe not the way you/she/us wants .. but what we can never all think alike ..all we can do is manage to not hurt each other too bad while living our best life (so oprah but couldnt find a better way to say it)

you will all be ok i just know it

[GloBug]

well i hope your buddy is alright while he is in jail. i say if u are gonna to jail and talk to him dont talk about what happened because that can be used in court. and u are smart to only talk to his lawyer but after that u will have to talk to the cops so they can check to see if what u said to his lawyer matches with what u are gonna tell him. the fact that he tried to steal ur buddies truck i think is still cause for a murder charge. ill be honest i dont think your buddy is gonna get off. there was no threat to him in away that would warrent him shooting him. worst case scenario would be 2nd degree murder and best case would be manslaughter. i would hope for his sake it would be the later. man he made a wrong chioce to shoot him. now if he tried to run over your buddy then that would have warrented it. but u gotta think that he knew who it was and he should have let it go and then report it to the police. it sounds like he didnt have a phone so it might have been hard to report it but he was able to report the shooting. wow i got mixed feelings about this. i dont think it is worth losing life over a stolen truck. from what u say they have a past and maybe it all boiled over that day. do you think money or anything else had to do with it? he is in a battle for his life and i dont think it will swing his way unless they get him on manslaughter charges and if it does take 2 years hope they give him time served and maybe he will get out after the trial. well ringo if u do talk to brazil tell him i said i will be hoping things work out for him. take it easy bud and dont dwell on what he did. it is tough to see a friend go thru this but u have your daughter to worry about now. keep your head up and use tiger balm for the aching muscles. it always works for me. stress is only what u make of it remember that.

[Pokerkitty6]

I like that "stress is only what you make it". We're a stressed out, over worked world. My new saying for myself is "Deal with it". It's helping me with everything!

[taylovesthebeatles]

Your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers buddy ol pal. Hang in there okay. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Keep leaning on your NDN family for support as well as your real life one. We won't let you fall, promise.

[BnLM5]

Well Ringo you know where to find us. We'll always be here for you! I am sorry for your friend. What a week end! You are also in my thoughts and prayers.

[GloBug]

well i hope your buddy is alright while he is in jail. i say if u are gonna to jail and talk to him dont talk about what happened because that can be used in court. and u are smart to only talk to his lawyer but after that u will have to talk to the cops so they can check to see if what u said to his lawyer matches with what u are gonna tell him. the fact that he tried to steal ur buddies truck i think is still cause for a murder charge. ill be honest i dont think your buddy is gonna get off. there was no threat to him in away that would warrent him shooting him. worst case scenario would be 2nd degree murder and best case would be manslaughter. i would hope for his sake it would be the later. man he made a wrong chioce to shoot him. now if he tried to run over your buddy then that would have warrented it. but u gotta think that he knew who it was and he should have let it go and then report it to the police. it sounds like he didnt have a phone so it might have been hard to report it but he was able to report the shooting. wow i got mixed feelings about this. i dont think it is worth losing life over a stolen truck. from what u say they have a past and maybe it all boiled over that day. do you think money or anything else had to do with it? he is in a battle for his life and i dont think it will swing his way unless they get him on manslaughter charges and if it does take 2 years hope they give him time served and maybe he will get out after the trial. well ringo if u do talk to brazil tell him i said i will be hoping things work out for him. take it easy bud and dont dwell on what he did. it is tough to see a friend go thru this but u have your daughter to worry about now. keep your head up and use tiger balm for the aching muscles. it always works for me. stress is only what u make of it remember that.

oh by the way i dont hink his truck being stolen is good enough to kill. just caught where i said it was ok. oops.

[GloBug]

hey bud i was wondering how things are on the home front. i hope they have gotten better. just wanted to let you know i am still in support of u. take care and remember you are a great dad. keep that in mind.

[woohoosue]

me too guy ... bring us an update...hows the daughter/family thing going ...hope all well....your friends situation get cleared up?

we are here guy .... only good wishes being sent to you

[freeringo]

hey bud i was wondering how things are on the home front. i hope they have gotten better. just wanted to let you know i am still in support of u. take care and remember you are a great dad. keep that in mind.

Things are good at home. School started this week and all good and positive.
My friend shot a sheep herder that was trying to steal his truck.
In California, go to jail.
Many other states, like Nevada, you are in the right to shoot someone on your property.
In California, they have to enter your home.

Emotionally, we are though this and have excepted it. Took a week for the shock to where off.
Thanks for asking and you too sue.

[BnLM5]

This is great news Ringo! I am so glad to hear that your family is doing well in recovering from all of the misfortune. You are a good man I knew things would be fine. It is just tough sometimes though, as it seems that good men get tested and worked out so they stay strong. It goes without saying to be strong you have to work out to learn patients you have to be tried etc. Seems so unfair on one hand and on the other it makes sense. After all if we did not know bad times, how then could we know and appreciate good times?