Maybe your wife's sponge is soaked. Try ringing it out or giving it time to dry.
And you may have been mistaken by some of what you said in your earlier statement. But prob not all of it. I don't think you should change at all. If you changed then you would not be Ringo. I happen to like Ringo. Maybe just oh never mind it.
It is very difficult to communicate through writing sometimes as we don't see expression or hear tone of voice. But it's all good!Meeting people and really getting to know them takes time as there are so many aspects to each life. Once we do know someone we sometimes find that we were wrong about what we thought we knew about them in the first place. So don't kid yourself with hasty opinions to soon because our opinions are just that. My dad always say's that opinions are like butt holes we all have them. If we didn't we would be miserable.