Hypothetically speaking, If the spouse loved her and he could get a job in town and make more money than out of town he would stay and not leave his family. There would be no reason to leave. IMO It would not make any sense to go out of town and go into debt.

I say if he goes, as much as it may hurt, mom is right move on and do good for yourself and your son. Don't throw idol threats. Mean what you say. I know it may feel like failing at it but you are not a failure. He would be walking away. Don't allow this to happen.

Children are flexible and as long as they are in a loving and safe environment they will bounce back and be just fine. They understand more than we realize. And in the end they will see the truth without one word spoken.

I would not wish a broken heart on anyone. It is an unexplainable pain that hurts like no other. However time heals pain! It sucks waiting for time to pass, until it has passed us and then we wonder where it has gone. Make the best of your life. Life is way to short and we only get one.