My life dilemma

[KaciBlakely]

As tough as this is, your first duty as a husband and father is to your immediate family, that being Heather and Kylee. I gather from your post that you are living with Heather's parents until you get more solidly on your feet? Is Heather's uncle living there too? If not, I don't think that how he feels about the situation should have any bearing on what is right for you, and it probably still shouldn't even if he is living there, because Heather's parents are the ones helping support you, not him. And if they're willing to coninue supporting you, especially if it's not much longer than a month or so when you would start this training program, then I say you should continue to let them be generous. There is plenty of time to return the favor to the family when you are really able to do so. I'm sorry this is causing stress between you and Heather, that sucks. Just try the best you can to get through this, if you can't find the strength to do it for yourself, then do it for little Kylee's sake. Kids can easily sense tension between their parents, no matter how young they are, and hard times between you and Heather will make it harder on your daughter, as well. Not saying it's not okay or normal to go thorough troubles because it is and every couple should at some point o strengthen their relationship, but still try to keep it to a minimum if you possibly can for all of your sakes. I know you will, you're a good guy.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers for sure. It sounds to me though that you already know what you should do, you just need to find the strength to do it. Believe me, I don't get along well with my immediate family really at all, even though I'm forced to spend a lot of time with them because of my handicap. I just keep trying to remind myself though that Klink is my family now, and we're supposed to care for each other's well being first and foremost, and how he feels about me is much more important than others. So try to keep that in mind, I know it's hard.

Thanks for coming to us for advice, that's what we're here for!

I can't say anything different than what Tay said because she said it all.

At least, that's what I believe in my opinion.

I wish you guys nothing but the best.

And will keep you guys in my thoughts.

[*KYLEE'SMOMMY*]

thank you tay for your insite. it is really helpfull. no johnny dont live here he

is just here all the time. joe hates him and so do i. we dont listen to him and

we ignore him. i havent liked him for 7 years. he is a piece of work. the day

my dad died he went into my mom and dads room (my mom was working out

the funeral arrangements) and tried to steal my dads guns! then 2 years ago

he tried to get joe to date his daughter behind my back. of course joe didnt

do it but its the principal you know? and other things. i cant forgive him for

what he has done!

[freeringo]

Truck driving jobs are one of the most needed jobs available and plumbing.
Truck drivers get paid well and after a year or two, your scheduling will be better for your family.
I looked into truck driving courses and the closest school is 80 miles in Reno and 5-6 weeks.

Problem is I live in California.
Closest school in Calif is 130 miles away and a cost of $1400.
You are getting school paid for you and support while learning.
You can't find a better deal.
Another thought is the Military
you have 2 years of college
you could enlist as an officer now.
Your family can live with you on base.
It sounds like you are good friends with your woman, that is so important.
Together you can pull this off.
Seperated, you would all suffer.
Your friendship, bond and love is strong.
Now cowboy up and take that first step to a LONGGGGG and happy future.
1-2 years is worth a lifetime of joy.
Good Luck

[Sassy12U]

I think that you should do what you feel is right. Take a look at the risk/benefits of each option and compare them with your family's reaction. I'm sorry that you are receiving negative energy from her Uncle but try to let it run off your back and be smooth.

As long as you know that you are doing the right thing and to support heather than that's all that matters. I would sit down and talk to her about it and find the best option for all the circulating drama as well. It won't happen over night or maybe it could.. but stay strong and keep your head up because you know that you can follow through with either of those options and become independent of the support and be able to live without the drama. I know you can do it!

Again, just take a little bit of time and think it over with every option so that you don't have any regrets. What helps me a lot of the time is focusing on my long term goal and my expenses in the present. This sounds really stupid but I use a Pro's/Con's list to help me decide these type of situations because I can understand where you're coming from. Just don't let you and Heather get involved in the things that don't really matter in your relationship. I hope I was helpful in some sort of way because I know I can never full understand what it is like but I know you two will work through it.

[PANAMHIEST]

Thanks for the positive replies to my post everyone. I think my best option would be to stick it out and get the training, and hopefully get a good paying regional trucking job where i can still be home everyday, like say pepsi or a beer truck. No i wil not steal anyone a truck load of beer, i know thats what yall thinking lol.

[GloBug]

Thanks for the positive replies to my post everyone. I think my best option would be to stick it out and get the training, and hopefully get a good paying regional trucking job where i can still be home everyday, like say pepsi or a beer truck. No i wil not steal anyone a truck load of beer, i know thats what yall thinking lol.

bro a case i was thinking keg. i mean come they get lost everyday in this country. ill take bud light lime. u know u buddy of mine started driving like 4 years ago and now he is a manager in the local distributer. he makes bank so this could be something to look forward too. just keep grinding and soon enough u will be satisfied with what u got.

[thenutzaa1]

Sorry to here this crisis! the best advice i can give to you since i am only 23 is get the cdl licesene!! you said in you post that you hate working dead end jobs well get that licesene!!

sorry to hear this and stick in there!

[BnLM5]

Every little thing will work itself out. Just hang in there stick together and work towards your goals one day at a time. (But you have to work toward your goals) I said that twice because sometimes depression and stress will hold us back if we allow it. So don't allow it and do what you have to do.

Then you know what should happen? ..........

This too will have come to pass, and something else will come along = life (lol)

Stay positive and happy. Always remember Love overcomes many things.