Quote Originally Posted by eejit101 View Post
I wont often ask something this.... personal, but i figured id get some perspective from a bunch of weirdos (you guys)

Background - I have a "girlfriend", kinda, she is 21, lives with parents, doesnt drive, is fun, blah blah blah

Issue - She has a 3 year old daughter. Im probably being a c***,
but this worries me. I dont like kids much, unless im related to them. Having a kid means attention, so going out with someone who has one means you cant really be "alone with them" or whatever you wanna call it, untill after the kid goes to bed. Plus its alot more work int he daytime or whatever, and my head hurts from random crying fits.

Is it shallow if this bothers me?

Thoughts?
Okay well I feel like this will be an omen for me, or something

of the sorts because, whether I like it or not, or whether I am

okay with it or not, I am going to be in the situation probably.

So I'm looking at if from that point of view. But the questions you

are asking depends on you as an individual and that's all it should

be based on.


It depends on you honestly, and what you want in your life. Is she

of the same religious faith? Is she nice? You said she's fun, but is

she just fun because she is new or what? I don't think it's shallow

based on the fact that she has a kid, but it would become shallow

if you were making decision based on how she looks, how attractive

she is, etc.


It's just what you want in your life, and if you feel this situation isn't

going to work out than you can just get out. And that's not mean or

spiteful, that's just a part of what dating is.


And if it's not this one you settle down with, than think her for the time,

and you can just assume you are one closer to who you want to spend

your time and life with.


I hope I helped somewhat, eejit!

I want nothing but good things to you.