How to talk to your parents

[targetguy1]

talking to my dad is like talking to the wall. everytime i call him its the same questions every freaking time. i answer them differently now to really screw with him.

i find the best way to talk to parents the same as i do my son. yes yes yeah oh really you dont say so and so on. it might be wrong but nothing he says interest me nor does it make since have the time.

[KaciBlakely]

Okay I've kind of stayed away from talking on this thread so I could collect my thoughts on the subject and so not to be harsh with what I'm about to say about my mother and father.

I'm from a military family and I moved around alot so that was part of the reason I think that I thought they were horrible parents growing up but I have since changed my mind.

I'm also a middle child therefore I always felt like I was just got stuck and never got anything I wanted just because.

Unlike my other sisters because My older sister got anything because she was first born.

And my younger sister got anything she wanted because she was the baby.

I felt this was unfair my entire life because even though they told us they loved us equally, this always stood out to me for some reason.

That's the one thing I'm fearful of in having children.

I never want my child/future children to ever feel inadequate in relation to his/her/their siblings like I did when I was growing up.

Since this happened I have a hard time talking to my parents and it may seem something stupid to fight over, but it's ccontinued from things growing up to finding it hard to converse to my parents about important things because I feel like they would just not care to listen.

It's personally hard to have a good relationship with my parents and it is something I have to work at everyday.

It sucks sometimes, most of the time, but it's life and you have to deal with it.

[freeringo]

Thanks everyone for their imput.

I am so proud that my wife and I can talk honestly and openly to all three of our kids. We never judge them and try to help them when we can.

I think that the evolution of change has arrived and we absolutely live in a new world now.

Too bad our parents are stuck in the old world.
They can keep it.

Welcome new world and welcome new friends.

If you don't like your family, find or make one you do like.
Like our NDN family, God Bless Everyone here.

[Pokerkitty6]

My husband and I are two of the most honest people you'll ever meet. I learned along time ago, never judge anyone. I like living that way and I love my NDN family.

[KaciBlakely]

Thanks everyone for their imput.

I am so proud that my wife and I can talk honestly and openly to all three of our kids. We never judge them and try to help them when we can.

I think that the evolution of change has arrived and we absolutely live in a new world now.

Too bad our parents are stuck in the old world.
They can keep it.

Welcome new world and welcome new friends.

If you don't like your family, find or make one you do like.
Like our NDN family, God Bless Everyone here.

I completely agree.

It doesn't matter if we don't know each other personally but I feel like we on NDN are a family away from our own.

I know if we ever need anything we can just make a post and can get advice on the matter, or just vent and people will support us.

Our new world full of technology and open-mindedness is so much better than the one are parents that are old and grumpy and can shove it.

It's totally there fault if they are going to be stuck in a rut, but I'm not gonna let it effect the way I choose to live my life.

[area206]

Both of my parents are divorced. They have been unhappily married for twenty years and were together because of my sister and I to have both parents together.

I am very afraid of my dad even til this day. His is very bigger than me. yes he has hit me and he is an alcoholic. What can you do about that. He forced me to play football in high school and I am glad he did, but what can I say. I had to do what he said. Definitely can't upset a drunk in the house. I probably talk to my dad once every two weeks. If we do talk its the same thing how your doing, etc... Even if we were face to face the only thing that we would talk about is sports and bowling. I guess that is good enough for me. I am not saying that he was a good dad as he supported his family and tried to be there for us. I would have thought I would have outgrown him and be stronger just in case we were to get in a fight, but he is still muscular and weighs about 250 so I can't compete with that.

As for my mom we can't really talk about anything but my son. She is very nosy but I don't think she realizes that. She always asks questions which can be very annoying but I have to respect her. She has helped my family enough to get us out of debt and take care of my son and provide for us as well. Can't really argue with that, but I have nothing to say to her. When she come over to the apartment she always thinks she smells marijuana and always thinks that I am high on drugs. I do understand where she is coming from as I used to do a bunch of drugs in my early twenties, but it can get annoying. It almost comes to a point where I just want to say F*** you to her because her questions are very condescending. I have to lie to her sometimes to get her off my back. Is that wrong??? I don't think so, but whatever.

All I can say is that I am grateful to still have my parents alive and talk too. Even though we don't talk as much I still think that family is important. Some others replied as to be truthful to your parents. As for me I have to lie all the time and I can't be myself around them. I learned that it causes less drama if I lie and I definitely don't need that in my life as I am stressed enough already.