well i can tell u from mine and my wifes experience. we only wanted one when we had our 1st 9 years ago but as time went on literally. 6 years later we decided to have another one. when we wanted one we went for it. if u are stable financially and dont have any problems with the 1st then by owe means have another. dont have one to haone. dont make it a burden. took us 6 years to come to that realization even the though 1st wasnt a burden. but we have one now almost 3 and the 9 year old both girls that i love and adore. as for a 3rd kid it aint happenening. im getting to old for this. my 2 now are great and a 2 handfuls. i got one going into the style and i want the best clothes and wants a cell phone and all that good stuff that i was never worried about as kid growing up. but times are different and i understand that thats y she gets what she wants when she earns it. now my youngest is about to turn 3 in ctober so she is at the most irritating stage for a parent. my odest never had terrible 2's but my youngest is making up for it .lol shes like a boy in a girls body. tons of energy. makes me wonder if we need to see a doc about if it is normal. but anyways they are natural feelings that u are having but u need to make sure u both are having it. that advice #1. well i hope u guys make a good desicion and the right one. good luck to u and panam.