Quote Originally Posted by Pokerkitty6 View Post
Thanks for your input B...I probably shouldn't drive after my first treatment because I don't know how I will handle it. I had surgery this morning to import my port for chemo. Right now I am very sore and tender. They put it by my collar bone. My bandage has a little blood on it, but they told me not to remove it for 48 hours. I need to eat soon. Haven't ate since yesterday. I have been in a deep sleep since I got home from the hospital around 11am. Can you believe I just woke up? I'm waiting for my husband to make me dinner. Yesterday I had a little more stress added to my plate....One of my brothers got into a little trouble, I won't go into detail about that, but Department of Children and Family's brought me his 11 year old daughter. She now, apparently has to live with us with no contact with her father. It's killing me because her father, age 31, is like my baby. We are very close, so I had no choice but to take his daughter. Her name is Marissa and it's going to be hard on her to watch me go thru this. Looks like now, I'm going to need advice on what to say to a child about my cancer. I had to already explain where my boobs went...This is going to make my journey harder, but I can't let the department have her. Tony and I are now under complete stress. Wish us luck....
Pokerkitty let go of the stress if possible. 11 year old girl is old enough to know the truth. Tell her exactly what is going on. She needs to know. Obviously she is having problems herself as well. She is prob under a great deal of stress also. So she prob needs to talk about the situation with her dad as well. I would suggest that you and Tony be totally open and honest with her in both situations. at 11 they are in between a child and teen and are far from stupid as you very well know. So just tell her how it is. Give her all the love you can. She will prob be a big help to you. Tell her you are sorry about her situation. But everything happens for a reason. Maybe God wants her there for you. Sometimes it is hard to see good things and reason in our lives because of all of the clouds but there is reason and I believe good will come of it.

I'm glad you have decided not to go alone to your fist treatment. I think you made a good decision there.

Glad your surgery went well. Just be careful with the port. My girlfriend had it also. Hers bled a little. But you don't want it to rip. So just take it easy and FOLLOW the doc's orders. K Lori