Advice needed

[67christine]

here is my problem. My mother is getting into the habit of giving out my phone number to people that I do not want her to. Last year she gave it to an ex-boyfriend and that one I did not mind, in fact it was nice getting him back into my life because he and I are so alike. But now she has given it to another ex boyfriend who I really do not want to even talk to. This guy has been calling me and I keep ignoring the phone. Thank God for call display. My mother hated this guy when I was dating him but now she is all excited that he wants to get into contact with me. The guy is a lying loser.

My mother has now given him my email address so now he is sending me emails. How do I get this guy to stop. I am scared that if I send him an email back saying somthing like stop trying to contact me it will just encourage him.

I have tried to tell my mother to take the persons phone number and I will get into contact with them but she just does what she "feels is right"

[woohoosue]

ok girl u need to nip this in the butt now......make a cute sign on computer laminate it and add a sticky magnet sheet to back and place on refidgerator ...... it will kindly say "I love u mom!.....BUT! you need to not give out any contact information about me to anyone. NOT one single soul! and end it with .....your devoted daughter. make it pretty something she will want to keep (light houses.sunflowers...whatever is her favorite)
she may be tiffed at first but she will undertstand after she thinks about it. if she gives u too much grieve give her acopy of this and tell her Im a mother too (52) and if my daughter told me not to do something and i still did it I would sxpect her to try a visual aid too.

[67christine]

that is a really good idea.

[Dallas12]

I would just tell your mother not to give out your presonal info to anyone.First of all she never knows what these people will do with that info. And second she has no right to give out your info. No matter who it is. So I would just tell her to stop giving out your info. And then tell her that you love her but it is not right to do this.

[taylovesthebeatles]

I don't know how much headway you'll make with regards to dealing with your mother because people are difficult to change, but as far as getting rid of the calls/emails that are bothering you right now, maybe have another male answer the phone when this person calls you so that your ex is thrown off by thinking he called the wrong number? Maybe that will stop him from calling. E-mails I think you just have to ignore, unfortunately, unless you want to go to the trouble of changing your email address. You could change your phone number, too, if it gets threatening or something, but I'd try first to have someone of the opposite sex and/or who sounds nothing like you to answer the phone and tell him it's the wrong number. Hope this helps.

[woohoosue]

or practice talking like a man .....this may also deter him thinking how much you have changed....no just kiddin ...but that was pretty funny..

[67christine]

it is not that I am afraid of the guy or anything. I dated him back when I was 17-18 years old. He lost his wife last year, at least that is what my mom told me. It is just there is nothing productive that could come from renewing any sort of friendship etc with him. Even as a teen I could figure out he was lying to me about things, nothing bad but I do not think he could tell the truth if his life depended on it. The worse thing is that he would lie about everyday type of things. He told me he was allergic to beer but I seen him drink it with no effects, lies along that line.

[NeverWinHere]

it is not that I am afraid of the guy or anything. I dated him back when I was 17-18 years old. He lost his wife last year, at least that is what my mom told me. It is just there is nothing productive that could come from renewing any sort of friendship etc with him. Even as a teen I could figure out he was lying to me about things, nothing bad but I do not think he could tell the truth if his life depended on it. The worse thing is that he would lie about everyday type of things. He told me he was allergic to beer but I seen him drink it with no effects, lies along that line.

I would just tell him that you are not interested in seeing him, and now sure how you feel about it, but maybe tell him you dont want to talk to him at all, to please move on etc.

If that does not work, then turn on the badazz in you, and get all crazy on him!

[67christine]

I would just tell him that you are not interested in seeing him, and now sure how you feel about it, but maybe tell him you dont want to talk to him at all, to please move on etc.

If that does not work, then turn on the badazz in you, and get all crazy on him!

good idea, i just do not think that anything can be gained by having him as a friend and I would not want him to get the idea that if I talk to him that he stands a chance. I hate to say it but my taste and standards for men have changed over the years and guys I dated when I was a teen (with one exception) I would not give a second look now.

I like the badazz thing. That can be so me somethimes LOL

[BnLM5]

As far as the damage already done "Ignore it/him" he will eventually go away. As for your mom ask her to take the requesting party's info rather than giving out yours and if you please you can contact them.

[sand]

tell him your dating a cop and to bog off

[woohoosue]

tell him your dating a cop and to bog off

ok sand that sounds like first hand information....Did it work on you? did u run?...lol ... all with ove....party on dude

[67christine]

I think that tonight I will email him and just tell him that I am not interested in renewing any sort of contact between us and I want to let sleeping dogs lie. If he keeps it up I will get a bit more forceful with it.

[taylovesthebeatles]

I think that tonight I will email him and just tell him that I am not interested in renewing any sort of contact between us and I want to let sleeping dogs lie. If he keeps it up I will get a bit more forceful with it.

Do that I suppose if you think it's really worth it. Otherwise I just wouldn't respond, if he's normal he'll just eventually get the hint and go away. If you really don't want contact with him or whatever for whatever reason, I wouldn't "give in" to him by giving him a response back, which is what he wants, it sounds like.

[knowledge]

what the hell does "bog off" mean.............lol

[taylovesthebeatles]

what the hell does "bog off" mean.............lol

I assume it means something like "go away".