Your arguments have become extremely weak lately. This isn't about what one person says to one another in private. This is about what is said here on a public forum in which I am responsible for moderating.
Like it or not, anything that I deem to be offensive to either myself or the community will not be tolerated.
P.S. In regards to your poor example above, why do you let what other people say or do dictate what you say or do? Just because one person says or does something doesn't make it acceptable for you to do the same.