okay hypothetically.
Your with somebody for about 13 - 14 years and the relationship is rocky but you're pretending to work on it.
You've been unemployed for a couple months with a couple days work in between. You pretend that your trying to work it out with your family (spouse and child) but you phone a past employer out of town and he says he'll hire you back. You agree to go out of town and tell your family. They don't agree with it because last year you did the exact same thing and it DIDN'T work out because you partied the whole time you were suppose to be working (keep in mind your 46 years old). Your spouse tells you that she can get you a job in town that pays more than the job out of town (and she's told you this on numerous occasions before today, you also have to pay for living arrangements and food etc out of town with your own money) Keep in mind for the past 2 months of being unemployed your spouse was helping you out and you were allowing her to spend her money on your neccessities (she may not have liked it and threw it in your face once in awhile) but you say you're still leaving to go work out of town. your STUPID spouse doesn't see the reasoning in it and your getting mad having the same conversation over and over with her. She gives you a choice.... go out of town and work = lose your family for good, or let her get you the job in town that pays double and keep your family.
what do you do and why?
PS/ the spouse is really pissed now and isn't playing games anymore and is SERIOUS as she's almost already moving on (one phone call and you're history). You're MOMMY says leave and do good for yourself, you don't need them. Your son is stuck in the middle and doesn't want to pick between mom and dad but will stay with mom because dad wouldn't take him anyway and mom provides for the family regardless what dad says because you don't give money like you claim you do. and when you go out of town to work you have to BORROW money to get there and BORROW money to eat, smoke, drink etc until you get your first paycheck which in the RIGHT world you have to pay back to MOMMY because she lent you the money to start out... and then you have to pay child support on top of that because your ex isn't playing games and has a garnishee on your wages.
HYPOTHETICALLY what do you do? do you still go out of town (and call her bluff) and work for party money and think you can just phone home and hope the ex misses you so much that she'll want to talk to you and let you come home when you want. Or do still go out of town, calling home and realizing she did move on and there's somebody else in her life? is a family worth that gamble? it may not work out if you stay, but at least that way you can still have your son in your life?
